The moment we choose to love we begin to move against domination, against oppression. The moment we choose to love we begin to move towards freedom, to act in ways that liberate ourselves and others. That action is the testimony of love as the practice of freedom. ~ bell hooks, Outlaw Culture My journey of self-integration and healing can be narrated as a journey of commitment to love for...
For the past weeks it has been in the ethers that old relationships are coming back for restoration, resolution or dissolution. Whenever I picked up on the energy my first thought oddly enough was pulled to my father. Whom I have cut out of my life after decades of manipulations, betrayals and scheming in the family system to isolate and get at my mom and I. The couple of...
I have empathy and compassion for how my self expression makes you respond. I understand that my expressions can allow your system to utilize and distort them to self-abuse or self-denigrate and elicit defensiveness and attacks on me. Nonetheless, as you might have experienced, I will stay true to myself and express what wants to be expressed in the moment. Not from a lack of care for your feelings...
We often talk a lot about the things we want, we long for or miss. But it is our actions, choices, visions and thoughts that reflect what we truly choose to go after. Regardless if these things are what we consciously want or not, the circumstances and things we have manifested by our choices (not necessarily illnesses, accidents, loss of loved ones etc.) have been created and magnetized by our...
To many the idea of a relationship questionnaire might seem highly unromantic and a buzz kill as it counters the mainstream gender and relationship narratives of it all having to happen without much talking. My polyamorous as well as monogamous relationship experiences have proven such tools to be more than helpful in sussing out where we might not be on the same page with a potential partner. Things which...
Today my heart sings with longing for one who lives far away, in the lands of the past. I have a soul deep yearning for the light in his eyes, the brilliant vivaciousness of his voice and the warmth with which his heart held all of me. Today I am being pulled to you with a gentle ferocity, your heart calling me back to you, to emotional fulfillment and...
With the upcoming Venus retrograde we are headed into our underworld to reassess our relationships as well as who and what we value in our life. What better time to write down the lessons learned in recent experiences with men as a note to self on who to choose? This is a highly personal condensed list yet I hope it serves you as an inspiration for your own contemplations on preferences...
“Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established.” ~ William P. Young I am grateful...
Loving and caring for a loved one means giving of and sharing ourselves unconditionally. Most of the times we gladly do it because we enjoy it, but love requires us to also do it when times are hard and we are being challenged out of our wits. Yes, sometimes we are called to stand in the blazing fires of their stories, their pain, their unfairness towards us in the...
