Online Dating

I believe no one was more surprised than me when my intuition gave me a nudge to start online dating again after having stepped back from it for years. And what a very different experience it was this time around thanks to the ways I have changed. I was not attached to the outcome...

Being Needed, Wanted, Valued?

Growing up in a family where people displayed codependent and covert narcissistic traits my system was entrained with a lot of misperceptions and distortions. Making me all too comfortable with dynamics and relational patterns that were not only unfulfilling and asymmetric but also harmful to my mental and physical wellbeing. This is why I...

Changing the Narrative on Break Ups

After A While After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning And company doesn’t mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts And presents aren’t promises, And you begin to accept your defeats With your...

Powerful Couple or Power Couple

I have observed within me a push and pull dynamic with regards to the concept of Power Couples. In wanting to explore which aspects about it attract and which repel me, or more precisely which parts of me and for what reason, I have been led on a beautifully explorative journey. A journey shared...

Being a Home

In a dharma talk I listened to yesterday Thay (Thich Nhat Hanh) shared that in Vietnam husbands and wives call each other 'my home' which in its beauty and along his insights on the nature of said home inspired deeper reflections in me. Making a home of ourself in his spiritual sense means the cultivation...

Who Does my Heart Desire?

As I am in an ongoing process of checking in with my heart and self on my current wishes and preferences around relationships and partners I shall share some of my tools and insights.   Today I want to share one of my playful visioning tools of inquiry into my being’s current vision of an...

Relationship Dealbreakers and Flags

In my early teens I read this sentence “Be like an Empress in love” which resonates to this day with me. Its meaning has deepened and expanded into different dimensions over time. From where I am today it stands for loving from a knowing of my own abundance, wholeness and sovereignty, and it speaks...

Lessons on Being and Relating

I am feeling the end of a large cycle in my life. About two decades of learning multidimensional lessons on relationships, self love and sovereignty. Looking back I am in awe and gratitude for the growth, knowledge, integration and wisdom these life lessons brought to me. I am grateful for the friends, lovers and...

Divine Union

I have been called to retreat into contemplation and reflection on my two primary relationships in life: the relationship with Source and the relationship with Self.  My mind assumed it to be a call for assessment of how well I did in the past year or where I failed to show up in my...

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