The subject of reconciliation has been on my mind and in my dreams for a couple of weeks. It has been an enchantingly romantic idea of my inner child that every relationship (familial, intimate, friends) and hurt can, and will, be reconciled, if you love each other and try hard enough. Of course life’s experience has proven that idea to be mostly unrealistic. Humans often prefer to gloss things...
It is important to look at the identifications and labels we use for ourselves. There is a need to delve deeper and make conscious which part of us and why it chose them and which beliefs, judgements and fears attach us to them. There is a need to look at their diametral opposite and see where and why it, or the traits associated with it, may lie repressed and...
“Shadow work is the path of the heart warrior.” ~ Carl Jung I have spent large parts of the past years witnessing my shadow aspects as closely as I could while living my mundane life. You could say my awareness was permanently split in external and internal awareness for the duration of their arising and raging. Which was often. There is an eerie duality of drives when facing the...
Reflecting on current experiences I realize that there has been a shift in my communication preferences I haven’t been fully aware of. I am way less affected by the communication style of people because of changes in my relational system and levels of self love. Few still manage to get under my skin and remind me to step into my inner spaciousness, observe my reactivities and stories my ego...
he was beautiful though not my type – whatever that is. something about him triggered my interest and when we started talking made me instantly switch into playfulness. my curiosity happily leapt at the prospect of exploring the vast depth i sensed behind these irresistibly blue eyes. underneath his reserved behavior i could sense the openness of his spirit and a lovely awareness connected with mine in fascination. oh...
There are feelings and memories frozen in time, their exquisiteness a memory of love and adoration held suspended in a timeless sphere. When I happened upon them by serendipity I was taken by their forgotten beauty, my heart resonant with love and joy as memories light as delicate scents enchanted my mind. Slowing down I breathe into this experience, a reawakening and experiencing of what I had deemed gone...
“She was used to it… having invisible footprints in other people’s lives… “leave nothing take nothing” as if her lovers and friends were national parks, protected, preserved for some future in which she had no part. And truth was, it was easy to tread lightly, to give of herself and take nothing in return… to love and be loved behind masks and curtains… safe behind demilitarized zones. Few people seemed to perceive how much of her was untouchable. But still, she dreamed of...
“In short, the path of service consists of doing that which is before your vision at this time with as much love as you can. Most paths of service are anything but dramatic, and all paths of service are equal. The quieting of a crying child, the smile to a stranger upon the street, the sharing of the self, of food, of shelter, of listening, the doing of a...
To many the idea of a relationship questionnaire might seem highly unromantic and a buzz kill as it counters the mainstream gender and relationship narratives of it all having to happen without much talking. My polyamorous as well as monogamous relationship experiences have proven such tools to be more than helpful in sussing out where we might not be on the same page with a potential partner. Things which...
The child in its ignorance craves an exclusive love that is not humanly possible. The love it wants is selfish; it does not want to share love with others, with brothers or sisters or even with the other parent. The child is often unconsciously jealous of both parents. Ye if the parents do not love each other, the child suffers even more. So the first conflict arises from two...
