The last year taught me more on subtle nuances to boundaries, and opened up a whole new aspect I have not yet engaged with. I was shown which hopes and desires, born of deficits and woundings of my childhood, still hold a level of power that effortlessly crosses and blinds me to my boundaries until harm has been incurred. A painful insight into the workings of patterns alive in...
Reflecting on current experiences I realize that there has been a shift in my communication preferences I haven’t been fully aware of. I am way less affected by the communication style of people because of changes in my relational system and levels of self love. Few still manage to get under my skin and remind me to step into my inner spaciousness, observe my reactivities and stories my ego...
To many the idea of a relationship questionnaire might seem highly unromantic and a buzz kill as it counters the mainstream gender and relationship narratives of it all having to happen without much talking. My polyamorous as well as monogamous relationship experiences have proven such tools to be more than helpful in sussing out where we might not be on the same page with a potential partner. Things which...
“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often...
Men. It is imperative that we respect a woman’s “No”. Bow to it. Really really hear it. And if her “No” brings us pain and discomfort, it is imperative that we own that pain, take full responsibility for it. That we give ourselves full permission to feel disappointed, rejected, sad, afraid, abandoned. That we own these uncomfortable feelings, and do not ‘take them out’ on her in our search...
