“I want to learn how to open a woman” he said.
She looked at him. “First you have to learn how to FEEL into her”, she replied.
“Well then teach me. Isn’t there a type of tantric massage I can learn to do that?”
“No sweetheart” she said, “you can only learn to feel into a woman by feeling into your own inner feminine.”
“My what? …How?”
“Every time you feel lonely you rush outwards looking for company. When you feel sad you rush outwards looking for entertainment. When you feel horny you rush outwards looking for sex…
…and every single time you rush outwards you neglect her- your inner feminine.
Inside you there is so much depth but you have never entered. There is pain you have never held. There is desire you have never witnessed. There is pleasure you cannot even in your wildest dreams imagine.
That is the She.
She lies within you, neglected and betrayed. Unheard and unseen and abandoned again and again.
She cannot open, blossom and shine unless you listen to her.
She cannot awaken until you are present with her.
How can you even think you can just open a woman outside of you when you have not opened the She within you?
There is a vulnerability and depth yet to be matured within you. Yet you are hoping to open a woman?
You think you can enter her yoni when you have not entered your inner realms? The most you can do is stick your physical body part inside her!
There is no trick. No tool. No technique.
If you “do” anything at all merely give up your actions, stop following your desires. Pause a moment and find what’s at the ROOT of your desire instead of losing all your focus on the object of your desire.
The roots will lead you into an inner world so vast you cannot believe it’s there. Vast underground caves FULL of treasures.
But you must choose.
Choose to go down and in for once, instead of out out out.
Then my dear, then… after developing a loving relationship with your inner She…. THEN you can open a woman. You will not even have to ask how.”
via: Shashi Solluna Tantra