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		<title>Spiritual Gardening</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>2018 is to date my most fruitful and rewarding spiritual gardening year. A confluence of new insights and knowing which created more internal cohesion, new spiritual tools and practices that enabled the healing of deep childhood traumas and more self loving choices on my part created a bountiful inner garden. It is an awesome feeling to look back at a year and feel more than content with the work I&#8230;</p>
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<p>2018 is to date my most fruitful and rewarding spiritual gardening year.</p>



<p>A confluence of new insights and knowing which created more internal cohesion, new spiritual tools and practices that enabled the healing of deep childhood traumas and more self loving choices on my part created a bountiful inner garden.</p>



<p>It is an awesome feeling to look back at a year and feel more than content with the work I accomplished and the freedom, joy and creative flow it allowed for.</p>



<p>What a change to the past 9 years that felt like an endless grind of cycles of painful losses, purging and disintegration to now experience the reclaiming of inner landscapes and seeing them bloom as I gain mastery of my selves and learn to embody my sovereignty in more and more areas of my life with clarity,  ease and flow.</p>



<p>Nothing beats this feeling of inner cohesion, joyful and creative interplay of selves after decades of inner conflicts and sabotaging.</p>



<p>And the cherry on the pie is the freeing of the relationship with my first love and healer from the pain, limitations and blockages past betrayals, disappointments and fears caused&#8230; welcome back Music, it has been too long!&nbsp;</p>



<p>How is your spiritual gardening?&nbsp;</p>



<p>What are the gifts this year brought to your life?&nbsp;</p>



<p>Are your inner landscapes thriving and blooming?&nbsp;</p>



<p>Which new seeds do you plan on seeding for the next cycle?&nbsp;</p>



<h6>Art: Arctic-Designs via DeviantArt</h6>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It&#8217;s seeing through the facade of pretense. It&#8217;s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” ~ Adyashanti The spiritual path is not all love and light as most of us know from experience and others are about to find out — especially in the&#8230;</p>
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<h5>“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It&#8217;s seeing through the facade of pretense. It&#8217;s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” ~ Adyashanti</h5>



<p>The spiritual path is not all love and light as most of us know from experience and others are about to find out — especially in the earlier stages of our awakening process. The joy of having found truth and meaning that resounds within our hearts is often accomplished with layers upon layers of disillusionment as the untruths of our lives become glaringly obvious and unavoidable.</p>



<p>One aspect we do not talk much about is how our individual spiritual practice and awakening affects our intimate relationships.</p>



<p>In my life, traveling to Bali and being brought back to life by its magical energy and the power of meditation and yoga has had a profound transformational effect on my intimate relationships by my choice and commitment.</p>



<p>Contemplating about my life made it very clear to me that I was unfulfilled and unhappy in my life and relationships, no matter how much I loved my then partners. And I had a clear intuition that I needed to be single to be able to focus on my inner work and healing and not use my partners as an excuse and distraction from it.</p>



<p>After spending a third of my life with my longterm partner it was quite a surprising and rewarding adventure to reacquaint myself with myself in a non-coupled and non-other-pleasing-state. </p>



<p>That is when a deepening of my journey into introspection, spiritual practice, self knowledge and self love took off.</p>



<p>I met amazing men on this journey whom I am honored to call brothers and friends, who have allowed me to see through their eyes, partake in their perceptions of life and relating in novel and insightful ways. Which is saying a lot because I had pretty amazing poly partners and friends with whom I had been having deep ongoing exchanges on the male experience, relationships, sexuality, communication and more. Later I would see that my poly friends were very versed in relationship, communication sciences, reflective, knowledgable about their emotions and psyche  though not as connected with their hearts, spirit and energetic aspects as my spiritual friends were who in turn were often lacking in the strengths of my poly brethren.</p>



<p>7 years of single life with fluctuating, changing and shifting attitudes towards intimate relationships, sexuality and men as conditionings and programming on gender, relationships, sexuality and romanticism were dismantled. Years of magical encounters turning into friendships, playful moments of connection which had a defined ending date by virtue of travel schedules, beautiful connections that felt like they could be my next longterm relationship but turned sour, etc., all of which came to me as teachers and catalysts on my healing path.</p>



<p>I realized it would be hard to meet someone and build a relationship worthy of my energy and time while I was traveling without and within. When you are constantly falling apart and pulling yourself together in a new form, oscillating through your days and weeks it is hard to keep up a connection unless it is of the lightest and non-attached kinds. </p>



<p>What is more I was working my way through healing many of the relational traumas of this life, my ancestral line and karmic accumulated burdens in intimate relating. I know, I chose to incarnate into this life to clear all of this and other darkness surrounding my entry into this body.</p>



<p>While going through my healing and integration work I recognized quite a few narratives that are distortions of the collective conditioning we share and which sadly reverberate in the New (C)age community.</p>



<h5>“We die to each other daily. What we know of other people is only our memory of the moments during which we knew them. And they have changed since then. To pretend that they and we are the same is a useful and convenient social convention which must sometimes be broken. We must also remember that at every meeting we are meeting a stranger.” ~ T.S. Eliot<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/18540.T_S_Eliot"></a></h5>



<p>Why does the New Age still hold people hostage to ideas of heteronormativity conveniently treating the energetic gender principle as if it was the conditioned matrix gender? I dislike using the terms like “divine/inner feminine” or “divine/inner masculine” because so many cannot read it without the toxic matrix conditioning of gender. Often I will choose to say yin or yang because with those terms people get that this is describing types of energy signatures and not human traits. But this is a rant for another time.</p>



<p>Why do so few spiritual teachers talk about the fluidity of our paths and the changes we go through in this life? Why uphold the monogamous ideal of having just one partner or staying with them for a lifetime as the ultimate ideal? I cannot help but see in it unreflected Judeo-Christian religious programming in need of elevation by the law of one and spiritual teachings like the hermetic principles for a higher and less distorted perception of reality. </p>



<p>Humans do change and evolve, rigid relational systems that do not allow for the change and expansion of the people in it or at least offer tools to help them relate and overcome times of dissonance are not aligned with our reality. To uphold narrow definitions and ideals of monogamy and glorification of duration of a relationship is to create a matrix of suffering for others.</p>



<p>Don’t get me wrong I have no attachment to any relationship style or configuration as being better or higher, my vision is to see every human to be free to choose, live and thrive in consensual, loving and expansive relationships or not.</p>



<p>And what is especially painful, yet a reality many have faced is when our growth paces are no longer aligned and we do not find ways to bridge the ever growing gap between us. There is no “one dogma fits all&#8221; in this. Everyone has to assess if staying with their partner or moving on is the right thing for their soul and the souls of their children. Discerning if the gap and dissonance of vibrating on different levels is just an interim phenomenon or the sign of a more permanent misalignment is impossible for the mind. These deep levels of discernment necessitate us to connect with the wisdom of our bodies and the guidance of our higher selves. These conversations and contemplations take time and cannot be rushed nor should we feel bad about the time we stayed although we knew it wasn’t serving us.</p>



<p>Sometimes staying serves us complete a cycle of healing or integration we might not be aware of but we will know when the time to move on has come, the clear alignment of all our parts in telling us to go. And man, it is scary to leave the security of the familiar to step into the unknown! </p>



<p>But there is no alternative to stepping repeatedly into the void, the unknown, if growth and service to Life/Source/the divine is our goal.</p>



<h5>“I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.” ~Virginia Satir</h5>



<p>My wish for us to create ways of connecting and relating intimately with each other without a need to own, limit or encase ourselves in constructs of the mind arises from my fundamental values of love, sovereignty, honesty and freedom.</p>



<p>My dream would be to live in a world or community of beings who have let go of the tyranny of religious and cultural constructs to explore, live and learn from their individual embodied soul expression with utmost love, curiosity and care for each other. </p>



<p>Living in a consciousness and value system which honors loving relationships, regardless of their duration, constellations and type. </p>



<p>Capable of Un-coupling when our paths are diverting, honoring the beloved teacher and divine in the other as we accept the completion and fulfillment of our union in this now.</p>



<p>Meeting each other in our sovereignty and loving one other without reserve, not just as long as our relationships last, but for eternity.</p>



<p>Letting it be love for Self in us and the other which works on bridging gaps between us or moving apart, whatever is intuitively right in the now.</p>



<p>Letting us drop the negativity and fear based programming around sexuality and learning to approach and enjoy our sexuality with playful, creative, passionate and sacred awe.</p>



<p>Learning to merge our energies on many different levels of our being and taste the diverse flavors of uniting Self with Self with love and in ever new and joyful ways.</p>



<p>A collective of sovereign, loving and powerful creators immersed in a joyful and passionate dance of love exploring itself.</p>



<p>My insights and reflections won’t necessary align with yours as we may have different incarnational trajectories, missions and soul paths chosen for this life… only you know your path and what is right for you. This is simply a sharing and invitation for reflection and exchange.</p>



<h6>Art: Dreams of Scorpion Heart by Cameron Grey<br/></h6>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Most people have never heard of transmutation in a psychological or spiritual context or any idea of its possibilities and gifts. Transmutation is the transformation of one element into another &#8211; a historically alchemical concept. Transmutation doesn&#8217;t easily fit into the linear materialistic and brittle westernized mind. Minds that have not been given knowledge and understanding of our fluid and changeable make up and thereby limiting and obstructing our understanding&#8230;</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><h6>“Women find that as they vanquish the predator, taking from it what is useful and leaving the rest, they are filled with intensity, vitality, and drive. The predator&#8217;s rage can be rendered into a soul-fire for accomplishing a great task in the world. The predator&#8217;s craftiness can be used to inspect and understand things from a distance. The predator&#8217;s killing nature can be used to kill off that must properly die in a woman&#8217;s life, or what she must die to in her outer life, these being different things at different times. Usually, she knows exactly what they are.”<br />~ Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés</h6></blockquote><p></p><p></p><p>Most people have never heard of transmutation in a psychological or spiritual context or any idea of its possibilities and gifts.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Transmutation is the transformation of one element into another &#8211; a historically alchemical concept. Transmutation doesn&#8217;t easily fit into the linear materialistic and brittle westernized mind. Minds that have not been given knowledge and understanding of our fluid and changeable make up and thereby limiting and obstructing our understanding of our nature and vast potential for change and healing. And what is more our minds lack a deeper knowing and knowledge of the &#8220;Law of One&#8221;and its ramifications for every aspect of our experience and life and therefore they get most things about life wrong.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Delving into the richness of myths, stories, spirituality and esoteric teachings helps us re-wild ourselves and reconnect with the vast knowledge our ancestors held. Knowledge which in our times is increasingly being backed by scientific research even if the mainstream media narrative ignores most of it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>In the fabricated ignorance of our minds we do not see that all that has been experienced and recorded in us can be transmuted and used as fuel for the expansion of our true self, for the connection with the precious &#8220;soul skin&#8221; guiding us towards meaning, fulfillment and deep inner peace and aliveness. Our minds have been taught to denigrate, repress or even destroy what they don&#8217;t understand or were taught to judge. Our soul and spirit on the other hand are capable of observing non-judgmentally and using that which can serve the soul path in creative, enlivening and empowering ways. They know that all is energy and all energy can be transformed but never eliminated as they operate on a higher level of consciousness and knowing of existence.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This alchemical transmutations of our psyche at the hands of our soul and spirit are the most sacred gifts of life we can learn to make space for, receive, cultivate and nourish. It for sure is no walk in the park, much rather a cycle of birth/ life/ death/ rebirth, and all over again and again. Necessitating us to cultivate the courage and strength necessary for these cycles by surrendering and trusting the wisdom of our inner wise and wild creative energy.</p><p>It is hard to fathom for the uninitiated how aspects of what created suffering for us in the form of predatory behaviors in others or in behavioral patterns conditioned into our subconscious can become strengths and building blocks of our new selves and realities built of our own making and not that of imprints and patterns. Regardless if they are friends or enemies of old, they all can transmute from a monster into a protector and aide in our growth and creative expressions and ventures.</p><p>In my mind this is the ultimate victory and elevation from being a survivor of our childhoods or other traumatic experiences in life towards being thrivers and sovereign creators.</p><p></p><p></p><p>All who walk this path will tell you they would never give it up for anything and anyone&#8230;. regardless of the pains and losses along the way.. as it feeds the fire and aliveness deep within us. </p><p>Look into our eyes and you will see it shimmer through our vulnerable magnificent beauty!</p><p>Photograph: Unknown</p><p></p><p>The post <a rel="nofollow" href="https://venuskind.de/2018/08/transmutation/">Transmutation</a> appeared first on <a rel="nofollow" href="https://venuskind.de">Venuskind</a>.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>“Our thoughts are mainly controlled by our subconscious, which is largely formed before the age of 6, and you cannot change the subconscious mind by just thinking about it” ~ Bruce Lipton Most of human actions (some estimate about 95%) are driven by the subconscious, which is the recording of our first 7 years and an ongoing replay and reaction from other people’s beliefs, principles and words. Only few of&#8230;</p>
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<h6><b><i>“Our thoughts are mainly controlled by our subconscious, which is largely formed before the age of 6, and you cannot change the subconscious mind by just thinking about it” ~ Bruce Lipton</i></b></h6>
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<p>Most of human actions (some estimate about 95%) are driven by the subconscious, which is the recording of our first 7 years and an ongoing replay and reaction from other people’s beliefs, principles and words. Only few of us manage to live from their conscious mind as the majority is constantly hijacked by the thinking of the subconscious and its automated responses.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>Don’t get me wrong we need our subconscious, it is exceedingly helpful in its speed and ability to take care of things while freeing our conscious mind from having to deal with complexities like regulating our body. Problems arise wherever the subconscious lures the conscious mind into being busy with the flow of thoughts arising from the subconscious while the subconscious takes care of our every action and engagement with life, rendering us unconscious and disconnect from reality while steeping us in the past.</p>
<p>To be present and conscious therefore means to know the way the subconscious operates and takes over and to cultivate a practice of keeping our conscious mind trained on the moment, creating and engaging instead of being focused on the internal flow of thoughts.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>Meditation is a wonderful tool in developing the awareness and distinction between the conscious and the subconscious mind. But to gain true freedom we need to take it off the mat or our meditation time into everyday life and make it an ongoing practice of awareness or mindfulness otherwise our progress will be slow and the ego will have no problems playing us.</p>
<p>From my personal experience and observation consciousness remains lacking if people do not invest their time into learning about psychology and neuroscientific research on the mechanics, biology and dynamics of our body mind system. Equally knowledge of those without the knowing of the teachings on the nature of consciousness, energy and the dimensional realities we live in and are surrounded by will limit one’s progress and possibilities of expansion and transcendence.</p>
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<h6><b><i>&#8220;The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.&#8221; ~ </i></b><b><i>C. JoyBell C.</i></b></h6>
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<p>My self work journey began with the first psychology book I bought when I was 13 years old. Ever since then I have been increasingly committed to knowing myself and transcending behavioral and thought patterns which limit or hurt my wellbeing or that of others.</p>
<p>The first part was defined by my explorations of psychology, neurobiology, communication and relationship sciences, a slow progression of changes along with therapies to help me grow past my blind spots. Years which informed my mind to understand behavioral patterns of the ego, dynamics in relationships, things that feed dysregulation and dysfunction and those that help us step into healthier, more peaceful and joyful experiences.</p>
<p>The most exciting part of the journey began with my exposure to eclectic spiritual teachings and technologies like yoga, meditation, mindfulness and the different consciousness models various schools work with. In the practice of meditation and yoga I managed to transcend more patterns and behaviors I had been aware of thanks to my forays into all about our psyche.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>The spiritual cosmologies and perceptions of life helped me to rebuild the foundations of my perceptions and beliefs to be better than the ones my childhood and cult upbringing had given me.</p>
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<h6><b><i>“Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.”</i></b><b><i>~ </i></b><b><i>Bessel A. van der Kolk</i></b></h6>
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<p>In the past 2 years I have revisited the childhood trauma I experienced and focused on healing my nervous system. Reading on current research on the manifestation of trauma in the body mind system and understanding the negative effects of a nervous system constantly set to hyper-vigilance made me commit to use all available tools in calming and resetting my polyvagal system. And what is fascinating is that the work of these years has created more changes than anything I did in the decades before. But alas then knowledge of childhood trauma and its treatment wasn’t as evolved then as it is now.</p>
<p>Being close to one of my primary caretakers and confronted with our trauma colored relationship allows me to measure my progress and failures with accuracy.</p>
<p>Another way to look the past two years is to see them as a massive purge and cleansing of the emotional and physical body of the stuck energy and memories of trauma while concurrently strengthening and nourishing my whole being to expand in resilience.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>This healing process necessitated a hermit life, limiting and avoiding social interactions as much as possible. Being closer and feeling the core wounds and vulnerabilities, I had tried avoiding for too long, was exhausting. In the exhaustion I realized a heightened sensitivity to certain energies, energies that had a similar vibe as the predators of my early days — people who give off a manipulative, dishonest, domineering, codependent, victim mindset, fundamentalistic, ignorant but self-righteous, etc. vibe would set off my defensive reactivities and repelled me. Isn’t it amazing how energy works to support our healing?</p>
<p>While working on calming my nervous system I needed to keep my mind engaged and delved deeper into mystery studies and happened on the 7 hermetic principles.</p>
<p><a href="http://venuskind.de/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/4b0918de8c94f2c46483c56a23af9300.jpg"><img decoding="async" loading="lazy" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2754" src="http://venuskind.de/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/4b0918de8c94f2c46483c56a23af9300-240x300.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="300" srcset="https://venuskind.de/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/4b0918de8c94f2c46483c56a23af9300-240x300.jpg 240w, https://venuskind.de/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/4b0918de8c94f2c46483c56a23af9300.jpg 564w" sizes="(max-width: 240px) 100vw, 240px" /></a></p>
<p>And the principle of polarity helped me get equanimity viscerally.</p>
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<h6><b><i>Principle of Polarity:  </i></b><b><i>Everything is dual; everything has poles; like &amp; unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree, extremes meet, all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.</i></b></h6>
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<p>In reflecting on the sameness of all dualities — identical in nature — and understanding they are different states of the same — just like water, ice and gas are the same just different in degrees &#8211; I realized the absurdity of attachments, preferences or opinions on any subject from a higher vantage point.</p>
<p>In my trauma research I understood that the true issue was the stuck emotional charge not the experience itself and in my self work I experienced the peace and power surge whenever I released the emotional charge. And so I chose to let go of the belief that I had to have a preference, opinion or attachment to one aspect of the duality and to be in the zero point instead. This sounds like a little thing but it proved to be a fundamental shift for my internal experience of life.</p>
<p>Living in equanimity without lasting emotional charge on any subject is still an ongoing practice but even the few areas that I have been able to clear from the burden of the charged responses have created an inner peace and wellbeing that my body had to live without for many decades. Choice is a powerful aspect of freedom, to have the choice if and how we want to engage with life in a way that serves our wellbeing and growth is a precious gift and achievement.</p>
<p>I do not allow myself to be baited into heated, emotionally triggering debates, and should I have slipped and find myself in one I thank the other and the experience for alerting me to a subject I need to disarm to expand my freedom.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>I had grown up feeling that being emotionally engaged equals being passionate and caring about something and that people who responded from cold detached logic were heartless, now I see that both approaches are lacking and not serving life and our personal growth.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
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<h6><b><i>Equanimity (</i></b><b><i>L</i></b><b><i>atin</i></b><b><i>: æquanimitas, having an even mind; aequus even; animus mind/soul) is a state of psychological stability and composure which is undisturbed by experience of or exposure to emotions, pain, or other phenomena that may cause others to lose the balance of their mind. The </i></b><b><i>virtue</i></b><b><i> and value of equanimity is extolled and advocated by a number of major religions and ancient philosophies. ~ Wikipedia</i></b></h6>
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<p>There is another way of being in the world.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>Observing and experiencing things from equanimity as your default allows you to preserve more of your life energy, which now can be fully invested in the service of your dreams, life and loved ones instead of being wasted on useless repetitions of old dramas. Equanimity doesn’t mean a negation of joy, pleasure, sadness, anger or any other emotions but it creates a calm set point where these can be welcomed as passing visitors without creating unhelpful intensity or stickiness which holds the visitors until they become burdensome and potentially toxic.</p>
<p>Equanimity is a gift I give to my body in the knowing how much it is taxed by hyper-vigilance, reactivity and the scripts of old narratives and their emotional charge.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>For now it works like this: feeling the emotional charge, acknowledging it ideally without acting on it, reflecting on the situation and responding from my values and visions instead of the pain of the past and creating inner harmony as the emotion is gently released from my body mind system. Eventually it turns into: the acknowledgement of an old story without any emotional charge and being free to respond adequately to the experience from knowing and wisdom.</p>
<p>All of my self work serves the goal of freedom, the freedom to think, be, act and create from my ideals and visions without the impediments of the past and the distortions conditioned into my sub-conscious.</p>
<p>And the more I delve into esoteric and occult teachings — now that I have finally shaken off prejudices and vague fears — the veils of programming are falling and I remember and know with an unprecedented clarity how to be and what to do in the moment.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>I can live life from a conscious trust and knowing that I am in benevolent Universe, loved and supported immensely with nothing to fear.</p>
<p>Art: Equanimity by Jalai Lama</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”~ Maya Angelou I write often about letting go and walking away as it has become an ongoing practice on this path of awakening. Much of what I used to love, hold dear or enjoy has lost its meaning and had to be released to a past owned by an old self. The hardest moments are when I realize&#8230;</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h5><em>“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”~ Maya Angelou</em></h5>
<p>I write often about letting go and walking away as it has become an ongoing practice on this path of awakening. Much of what I used to love, hold dear or enjoy has lost its meaning and had to be released to a past owned by an old self.</p>
<p>The hardest moments are when I realize the misalignment with someone I love and have shared meaningful and magical experiences with, the mind and subconscious tend to grasp and want to hold on to experiences and people as they live in the illusion of separation and scarcity due to the conditioning of this world. Tempting or bullying me to disbelief what people have shown me.</p>
<p>I sometimes give in and try to hold on to false hopes of &#8220;maybe things will change?&#8221;or &#8220;maybe they will learn and grow?&#8221; and yet intuition never fails to have the truth of it when it gently whispers that I better move on. When I give in and try to make something work or my ego plays at putting the blame on me and tells me to be more embracing of someone&#8217;s otherness it just leads to even harsher reveals of incompatibility and more painful exposures of issues and dynamics.</p>
<p>Being aware through such moments and seeing things unfold through the dual vision of lower and higher self reveals much about my conditioning and its tools in leading me towards pain and suffering instead of leading me towards joy and love. I see the parts and beliefs in me that sabotage and sacrifice me while trying to grasp for something non-existent or lacking in value.</p>
<h5>&#8220;Taurus and Taurus Rising — The self, new beginnings, vitality. You will be reborn, reinvented. You will change how you look or something fundamental about who you are and how you express it. You will revolutionize your life. You will let go.&#8221; ~ Empowering Astrology</h5>
<p>A challenging and expansive process of correcting self- esteem and rebuilding the concept of self as Uranus gifted me with revolutionary insights, new perceptions and knowing of Self is under way.</p>
<p>This year Taureans were taught to value our selves, gifts and skills more than we did before in a misguided sense of humility, many insights driving home how often we have been throwing &#8220;pearls to swine&#8221; in our underestimation of the value of our presence, attention, time, love, energy and support&#8230; just to earn the ingratitude and injustice meant to awaken us to our foolishness. <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>If Taureans now had a scale, like our Venusian Libra brethren, our scale would not measure simply the justice and balance of things but also the precise value of what is brought to the scales by the respective parties.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>With the emergent self and knowing relationships are being weighed and discerned on many new levels and the creator in me is revisiting if I want to invest more energy or choose to take it elsewhere where it yields better and higher returns. My abundance and wealth of energy and love will not be squandered any longer, it will be mindfully put at the service of Life, of my wellbeing and that of loved ones or contained until I am guided to give of it.</p>
<h5>“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn</h5>
<p>Regardless of our signs we all relate conditionally even if love is unconditional. Understanding the way relating with others affects us on various levels inspired me to reflect upon my life path and how those I spend the most time with are aligned with these or might detract from them.</p>
<p>At first this was just from a psychological perspective, assuming that our mirror neurons unconsciously adapt us to our direct environment. Yet delving deeper into mystery schools and learning about energy, theories of frequency, resonance and quantum geometry have given this a more profound dimension.</p>
<p>If we by sympathetic resonance emulate the energy around us to the point of developing the same physical and mental illnesses as the people we surround ourselves with or by epigenetically changing the settings of our DNA then who we relate to and in which way has serious ramifications that go beyond someone merely discouraging us from reaching goals. It becomes a matter of our overall wellbeing: spiritual, mental, emotional and physical.</p>
<p>With that a deeper awareness and new conditions for relating have emerged for me, not from a stance of fear but from the excitement of creating positive charged surroundings that not only uplift us but help me stay healthy and strong.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>So if anyone doesn&#8217;t have a committed and daily practice of awareness, heart-centeredness and keeping their vibrations up and be open and grateful to those enlightening them on their blindspots&#8230; they can be in my life but not in my inner circle. This is not about negativity or toxicity &#8211; we all carry enough of that within us to be hard pressed to &#8220;throw the first stone&#8221; no this is about how we manage our own energy, boundaries and how conscious and knowledgable we are of our inner workings.</p>
<p>I observe with little joy how many men have been socialized to unconsciously rely on women to do the emotional work for them and turn on them if they respectfully decline to do that or when their shadow is made aware to them in gentle and playful ways. I understand the fragility, I understand overwhelm I find myself still too often there&#8230; but if you do not have the ability to bounce back from such a drift in ego and see things from a higher perspective or even better have the capacity to follow another when they lead you to a meta perspective on the behavioral patterns playing out between you&#8230;. then we lack a fundamental tool of relating, growing and rising in connection and I will retreat from engaging because it becomes strenuous and pointless to me.</p>
<p>If you don&#8217;t like to think and reflect much on life, this world and yourself we are not very compatible as my path is one of inquiry and knowledge and I thank you for teaching me about that.</p>
<p>If you do not hold yourself to the same high values and principles you expect of others or if you hold no one to any values in a bypassing &#8220;acceptance of all as it is&#8221; we are not compatible as integrity is a core theme of this incarnation for me and I thank you for teaching me about that.</p>
<p>If you delve into teachings and knowledge without the wish or capacity to retain or embody them we are not compatible, my path is about practicing and embodying resonant truth and I thank you for teaching me about that.</p>
<p>If you cannot generate joy, love and equanimity on your own but &#8220;need me&#8221; to do so, not just in times of hardship but because you do not put the work into it, we are not compatible as sovereignty and equality are at the foundation of all my relationships and I thank you for teaching me about that.</p>
<p>I bow in gratitude to H. who taught me many of these invaluable lessons and much more.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></p>
<p>I honor my intuition, higher Self, guides and Source for helping me navigate through this beautiful challenge, for the gifts of knowing and seeing true and the deepening of my blissful relationship with the Beloved.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Like the figures in this image we are faced with another gateway, some of us unconscious of it while others of us are given the insights as to what we need to leave behind when we step through the portal into our new reality and new paradigm. We stand at a gate of vibrational integrity. No longer can we allow ourselves to give in or be unconscious of the proclivities&#8230;</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Like the figures in this image we are faced with another gateway, some of us unconscious of it while others of us are given the insights as to what we need to leave behind when we step through the portal into our new reality and new paradigm.</p>
<p>We stand at a gate of vibrational integrity.</p>
<p>No longer can we allow ourselves to give in or be unconscious of the proclivities of the ego and only be met with their consequences after a delay. We have entered a space where we are experiencing more of an instant karma and instant manifestation of our vibrational frequencies.</p>
<p>All the purging, releasing of old karma, having to consciously let go of beliefs, attitudes and behavioral patterns, the practicing of awareness and self awareness in the past years were in preparation for what awaits us now.</p>
<p>Our thoughts, spoken words, feelings and intentional visions become the reality we experience with an imminence like never before. You might have noticed a shift in the energy, doors opening where they before had slammed shut and remained closed.</p>
<p>You might feel, sense and observe how things are suddenly aligning, people entering your life, inspired ideas being enhanced, co-signed by others and suddenly faster available than you would have believed possible.<br />
Just like that &#8211; magic.</p>
<p>Our old mindsets and beliefs as to how things are done cannot cross this portal.</p>
<p>After working on reclaiming and aligning with your sovereignty in aloneness you are sensing, experiencing and recognizing the souls meant to co-create your future visions, mission and path with you. They might not be the ones you envisioned or new to your life and yet they are more familiar than those you have known for decades. In connecting you realize that you bring unique and complementary gifts and skills to the table which synergistically harmonize and co-create with potency.</p>
<p>Creation is no longer motivated by the small self but originates with the SELF and happens with guidance by Source in an elegant flow and dance of being, joy, love and light-heartedness transcending external circumstances in the 3D.</p>
<p>With gratitude, awe and excitement for the infinite possibilities awaiting us patiently.</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jul 2018 08:02:50 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>In cycles of deep inner healing I observe myself retreating from certain people not from a space of judgement but from an intuitive knowing that their energy is disruptive or detracting from my healing. Harshness, judgmental attitudes, criticizing, unconsciousness and coldness are uncomfortable in our adult, detached or armored states. When we delve into inner child healing, opening to the rawness of our essence and our darkest stories of inadequacy&#8230;</p>
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<p>In cycles of deep inner healing I observe myself retreating from certain people not from a space of judgement but from an intuitive knowing that their energy is disruptive or detracting from my healing.</p>
<p>Harshness, judgmental attitudes, criticizing, unconsciousness and coldness are uncomfortable in our adult, detached or armored states. When we delve into inner child healing, opening to the rawness of our essence and our darkest stories of inadequacy and unlove, we are once again experiencing life as the highly sensitive and defenseless child we were and these things become nigh unbearable.</p>
<p>Only few people have the emotional intelligence to be present with us without eventually switching into auto-piloting from their subconscious and being thoughtless and hurtful when triggered.<br />
And as painful as that is, it is not their job to be different to protect our inner child, it is ours to take ourselves away from such people and encounters until we healed enough to handle them without hurting ourselves unnecessarily.</p>
<p>An integral part of taking responsibility for ourselves is being mindful of our states, feelings and boundaries and honoring them to allow our self to evolve and express fluidly as well as to be kind towards others.</p>
<p>We don&#8217;t live in cultures that value tender and fragile aspects of our selves and as we are remembering how to do so ourselves we will be often challenged. Yet as we progress along our path of healing and exploration we come across those who can be guardians of our tenderness and gardeners of the flourishing of our souls.</p>
<p>I am grateful for this innate wisdom of moving towards integration and love.<br />
I am grateful for my role models of vulnerability, emotional intelligence and holding space.<br />
I am grateful for the friends and family with whom I get to experience safe spaces and grow from my mistakes and learn to be gentler and fully present.<br />
I am grateful for those who hurt me in moments of vulnerability and allowed me to experience my inner strength and resilience.<br />
I am grateful to myself for getting clearer on what I need and what works for my wellbeing and expansion and for learning to move away from who and what doesn&#8217;t serve me.</p>
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