HOW TO SILENCE A WOMAN: RETRIEVING HER VOICE

When someone says, “We’re saying the same thing.”
Say, “We are not saying the same thing.”


When someone says, “Don’t question, just have faith”
Say, “I am questioning vato, and I have supreme faith in what I think.”


When someone says, “Don’t defy my authority.”
Say, “There is a higher authority that I follow.”


When someone says, “Your ideas are seductive.”
Say, “No, my ideas are not seductive, they are substantial.”


When someone says, “Your ideas are dangerous”
Say, Yes, my ideas are dangerous, and why are you 
so afraid hombre o mujer ?


When it is said, “It’s just not done.”
Say. “It will be done.”


When it is said, “It is immature”
Say, “All life begins small and must be allowed to grow.”


When it is said, “It’s not well thought out.”
Say, “It is well thought out.”


When they say, “You’re over-reacting.”
Say, “You’re under-reacting vato.”


When they say, “You’re being emotional.”
Say, “Of course I have well placed emotions, and by the way, what happened to yours?”


When they say, “You’re not making any sense.”
Say, “I don’t make sense, I am the sense.”


When they say, “I can’t understand you when you’re crying.”
Say. “Make no mistake, I can weep and be fierce at the same time.”


When they say, “I cant understand you when you’re being so angry.”
Say. “You couldn’t hear me when I was being nice, sweet or silent, either.”


When someone says, “You’re missing the point.”
Say, “I’m not missing the point, but you seem to be missing my point— 
What are you so afraid of?”


When someone says, “You are breaking the rules.”
Say, “Yes, I am breaking the rules.”


When someone says, “That’s not practical.”
Say, “It’s practically a done deal, thank you very much.”


When it is said, “No one will do it, believe you, follow it.”
Say, “I will do it, I will believe in it, and in time, the world may well follow it.”


When it is said, “No one wants to listen to that.” 
Say, “I know you have a hard time listening to that.”


When it is said, “It’s a closed system, you cant change it.”
Say, “I’m going to knock twice and if there is no answer, 
then I am going to blow the doors off that system and it will change.


When it is said, “They’ll ignore you.”
Say, “They won’t ignore me and the 100s of thousands who stand with me.


When they say, “It’s already been done.”
Say, “It’s not been done well enough.”


When they say, “It’s not time yet.”
Say “It’s way past time.”


When they say, “It’s not the right day, right month, right year.”
Tell them, “The right year was last year,
and the right month was last month,
and the right day was yesterday,
and you’re running behind schedule vato,
and what in the name of God and all that is holy
are you going to do about it?”


When they say, “Who do you think you are?”
tell them who you are, and don’t hold back.


When they say, “I put up with it, you’ll have to put up with it too.”
Say, “No, no,no,no.”


When they say, “I’ve suffered a long time and you’ll have to suffer too.”
Say, “No, no, no,no.”


When they say, “You’re an incorrigible, 
defiant, hard to get along with, 
unreasonable woman
Say, “Yes, yes, yes, yes,


and I have worse news for you yet—


We are teaching our daughters,
our mothers, 
and our sisters…


We are teaching our sons 
our fathers, 
and our brothers


to be


just


like


us.


~ Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes

In my search for the photo credits of the image I chose I learned to my sadness this beautiful woman committed suiced. A painful reminder that voices of suppression and oppression often live within our own minds and torture us if we haven’t learned the tools to overcome them.

We need to to teach ourselves and others to find the strength within to stand up to and silence the oppressors within and without, on our own as well as together. This world is in need of healing and integration knowledge and practices being brought to all- too many of our fellow humans live in suffering.

May we cultivate kindness, awareness and care for the people in our vicinity and be a source of solace, healing, enlightenment and joy to those we engage with.

We are so much more powerful than we were ever allowed to learn or know. We are stronger, more creative, more loving and more joyful than any of our circumstances and obstacles can ever be – even if our minds say otherwise.

And there is a vastness of love surrounding and holding us every moment of our life… we need “only” open our eyes and senses to feel and know it.

If only you knew beautiful Rhauda Athif.

May you and all who fell and shall fall at the hands of this oppressor matrix be cleansed of this darkness and journey on in the love and light of Source.

Model: Rhauda Athif
Photographer: Unknown
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