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Communication

venuskind — Sat, 01 Dec 2018 19:58:32 +0000

Reflecting on current experiences I realize that there has been a shift in my communication preferences I haven’t been fully aware of. I am way less affected by the communication style of people because of changes in my relational system and levels of self love. Few still manage to get under my skin and remind me to step into my inner spaciousness, observe my reactivities and stories my ego fabricates and the intuitive messages I am getting about the state of the connection before responding from clarity and equanimity. ⠀
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In our busy times and the stress people live with I understand that they will reply whenever they can and feel like it or potentially from depleted energy levels. And to be honest I would rather get a “late” message crafted with care and love after someone attended to their own needs than a hasty thoughtless reply devoid of presence by someone who keeps themselves depleted and frazzled. ⠀
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Yet I get miffed when people do not show respect and care for the connection by breaking their word and vanishing in the midst of virtual conversations when it takes only a minute to send something like “I am swamped, will get back to you asap” and doing as you write or let me know you do not want to communicate. No need to feel guilty about delays or forgetting but the lack of accountability and communication sucks. ⠀
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I prefer people who are kind with me and bring empathy and mindfulness to the building and nurturing of relationships.⠀
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Repeats of radio silence, apologies but no change of behavior, promises of getting in touch just to fall off the face of the earth, act like all is well or half-heartedly apologizing are sure ways of diminishing my respect and trust. There is no relationship once respect and trust are gone.⠀
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I do not get sad, angry, frustrated or confused at such behaviors and treatment. I step back and assess my energy, contemplate how I invited this experience, learn what can be learned, address it with the other if there is hope for change or resolution or else move on. ⠀
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It is not that hard people, do not allow your ego to alienate you from the people you profess to like or love! Is this how you truly want to be?

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Dance to Self

venuskind — Wed, 17 Oct 2018 12:03:28 +0000

Listen to the silence between words,
The silence that envelops sound
This is where our hearts are one,
The infinite, diverse and vast One.

Hear the song of creative potential
Let it move you, sing through you
Unite us in a dance to its driving rhythms
Taking us where life is eternally made and remade.

Shed your skins of stories and grievances
Release the conditioning and beliefs of knowing it all.
Find your curiosity, awe and innocence
Open yourself to the magic of life.

Die to your small artificial self,
Leave your grasping and posturing,
Be reborn by the Self into a new state of being
Loving, creating and flowing as One.

Photography: Tao Ye & Duan Ni in TAO Dance Theater’s ‘2’ by Matthew George Johnson

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Non-Action

venuskind — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 13:39:38 +0000

“The non-action of the wise person Is not inaction. It is not studied. It is not shaken by anything. The sage is quiet
Because she is not moved,
Not because she wills to be quiet.
Her quietness is the mirror
Of heaven and earth
The glass of everything.
Emptiness, stillness, tranquility,
Traceless,
Silence, non-action:
This is the level of
Heaven and earth.
This is the perfect Tao.”
~ Chuang Tzu

Photography: Unknown

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