When relationships shift or end I have learned to be vigilant as I keep my ego on a short leash to assure it doesn’t play out the narratives of break ups and suffering it has been conditioned to believe.
I do not allow it to denigrate the other to make itself feel superior, I do not allow it to wallow in thoughts of a victim mindset, I do not allow my ego to take its feelings and thoughts to social media that can in any way that can be hurtful and disrespectful of another’s privacy.
Instead I remind it of the good times shared with that person, the good traits and deeds of the other I appreciate, I keep reminding it of my wholeness, capacity for creating joy and the beautiful network of love and connection I have surrounded myself with… and I make it reflect on the on the mistakes I made in relating with that one and on the lessons to be learned from it.

Regardless how unfair, low or dark the other might act in their self-inflicted pain I will keep to the higher road, reminding myself that I used to do similar disservice to myself and others when I was less experienced and insightful and deepening in my compassion for them as I forgive myself my past mistakes.

I know that whatever is leaving my life or changing form is only making space for a renewal and better things to come and so I can let go with more dignity and integrity than before and without succumbing to lower vibrational lures of my subconscious.

I will no longer be beholden to narratives of disempowerment, scarcity, victim mindset and unlove and thank all my teachers and tutors along this pathway to freedom and sovereignty.

Yes, I love the sound of my feet walking away from the neurotic, self-defeating scripts of break ups and relationshifts as I keep choosing love and freedom!

Art: Egyptian queen Hatshepsut by Christiane Vleugels

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Mind “He is fun and i enjoy the conversations we have but he is not my type, I am not attracted to him physically.“
GTS  “You cannot be so superficial, it’s the personality that counts, looks will fade away but the personality stays. You are not being very spiritual, are you?“

Inner Child “He does not respect my boundaries. I don’t think a relationship with someone like that has a future!“
GTS “Come on, you can be quite ____  yourself – you have to cut people some slack unless you are perfect. He can learn and grow, give him time. His other traits are not too bad, you liked them in the beginning didn’t you?“

Mind “He keeps doing it over and over. I see no understanding nor a want to change and learn to honor my boundaries. I am wasting my time – waiting for a tiger to change his stripes would be less hopeless than this. we need to move on!“
GTS “He might just need more time, this is just your impatience acting up. He is intelligent, he will surely get it in time…“

As convincing as goody-two-shoes’ points may seem my past experience shows whenever I listened to it I achieved „no conflict“ at the price of my aliveness and had to put up with undesirable experiences. I do appreciate this voices temperance of reactivity in my life, but I am no longer willing to allow it to make me SETTLE FOR LESS than is available.

I deserve to be happy in my own way, in the truths of my deepest soul even if these do not align with being “good”. I allow still too many unwanted experiences to prevail in the name of learning, when it takes a simple decision to change them. From now on goody-two-shoes will have to be in the backseat while other aspects will be the main creators of my experience.

I do not want to harm other people but I would rather discomfort them with my truth than suffer the effects of settling for what I do not want and live a lie. Especially when i know from experience that expressing and living my truths have always been rewarded with happiness and joyful experiences!

Allow for the things you wish to prevail and let go of what doesn’t serve you!

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